Go to Your Room!:
Consequences That Teach

by Shari Steelsmith

Detailed Contents

Introduction

1. Your Rules and When Children Break Them

Your rules and why you have them
How consequences impact your rules

2. What Are Consequences?

When natural consequences don’t work
What are logical consequences?
Examples of logical consequences
Warnings: should you use them?
Should children help set consequences?
When are logical consequences needed?
Avoiding situations that require consequences
Rewards and consequences: two sides of the same coin
Consequences will not succeed alone
Consequences to avoid
The next step

3. Choosing and Using the Right Consequence For Your Child

“Grounded till next Christmas?”
The consequence must match the child
Commonly-used consequences
Making amends as a consequence
A word about power struggles

4. Delivering the Consequence and Following Through

Calm yourself down first
Delivering the consequence
Coping with children’s diversionary tactics
The importance of follow-through
The next step

5. Common Misbehaviors and Effective Consequences

· Activities/lessons, won’t follow through on
· Allowance, squanders
· Argues with parent
· Baby sitter, misbehaves for
· Back talks parent
· Bad language, uses
· Bathe, won’t
· Bed, won’t go/gets up
· Begs at the store
· Blames others
· Car, misbehaves in a
· Chores, protests
· Chores, does poorly
· Chores, fails to do
· Church, misbehaves in
· Coat/shoes, loses
· Critical of others
· Cuts classes
· Damages property
· Dawdles
· Defies parent
· Dirty looks, gives
· Friends, has over without permission
· Get dressed, won’t
· Gossips
· Hits/kicks
· Homework hassles
· Ignores parents
· Insults cook
· Lies, tells

· Meals, won’t eat
· Misses deadline for returning home
· Name-calls
· Nonverbal disrespect
· Put-downs, uses
· Repeats self
· Restaurant misbehavior
· Room, won’t clean
· Room, won’t go to or stay there
· Runs off on outings
· Says “Huh?” a lot
· School misbehavior
· Self care, neglects
· Share, won’t
· Sibling, mistreats
· Slams doors
· Spits
· Sportsmanship, poor
· Steals
· Table, won’t stay at
· Takes things without permission
· Tantrums
· Tattles
· Teases, unkindly
· Teeth, won’t brush
· Throws things
· Toys, won’t pick up
· Volume control, abuses
· Whines
· Yard/house, leaves without permission

6. Planning For a Specific Problem

Example worksheet
Closing thoughts

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Index

Useful for 3–14 years
160 pages
$14.95 paper

“. . . ‘must’ reading for any parent ever felt the need of a common-sense guide for improving their child’s everyday behavior at home or in public.” Midwest Book Review

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About the Author:
Shari Steelsmith

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Go to Your Room!: Consequences That Teach

Detailed Contents

Go to Your Room!:
Consequences That Teach