Detailed Contents
Introduction
1. The Dreaded Power Struggle
- What a Power Struggle Looks Like
- Why Power Struggles Happen
- The Bicycle Power Struggle
2. Why Children Need Power and Control
- Power and Control Are Good for Self-Esteem
- Negative Power and Control
- Finding the Right Balance
- The Two-Year-Old
- The TV Remote Control Power Struggle
3. Choices and Decisions Suitable for Children
- Choices for Toddlers
- Control for Older Kids
- Choices and Decisions for Each Age and Stage
- Six Tips on Giving Choices
- The Dinner Party Power Struggle
4. Sometimes You Just Have to Hold On
- Hold On When Safety Is the Issue
- The Bicycle Helmet Power Struggle
- Avoiding the Bicycle Helmet Power Struggle
- How to Establish a Safety Rule
- Instilling Values, Avoiding Power Struggles
- Hold on to Your Control When Your Child is Out of Control
- Rules
5. Choices, Negotiation, and Compromise
- Defusing Power Struggles On-the-Fly
- The Shoes Power Struggle
- Building Bridges to Competency
- The Doll Power Struggle
- Incentives Provide Choice
- The Saturday Chores Power Struggle
- Rules Provide Opportunities for Choices
- The School Gear Power Struggle
- Compromising Through Formal Negotiation
- The Wall Poster Power Struggle
- When Nothing Seems to Work
6. Letting Go of a Power Struggle
- How to Drop Out
- Dropping Out Is Not Giving Up
- Projecting Ahead: Borrowing Trouble
- The Piano Practice Power Struggle
- The Mini-Mart Power Struggle
- Safety Concerns
- Why Can’t Children Just Comply?
7. Choosing Any One of the Three Options
- The Bedtime Power Struggle
- Stressful Circumstances Require Letting Go
- Jumping Among the Three Options
- The Clean-Up Power Struggle
8. Power Struggles You Will Always Lose
- Eating
- Sleeping
- Toileting
- Attitude
- Pace
- Thinking
- Emotions
- Temperament
9. What You Bring to Power Struggles
- Powerful Parents
- Powerless Parents
- Parents Who Seek the Ideal Child
- Perfectionist Parents
- Parents with Unrealistic Expectations
- Parents Who Want Their Child to Complete What They Didn’t
- Parents Whose Children Must Succeed as They Did
- The Homework Power Struggle
- Parental Growing Pains
10. Tapping into Your True Power
- How the Homework Power Struggle Might Have Been Avoided
- Tap into Your Positive Power
11. Rebuilding Damaged Relationships
- Communicating Unconditional Love
- Along with Love Goes Teaching Skills
Afterword
Helpful Resources
Index
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