Dealing with Disappointment

Detailed Contents

1. Who’s responsible for happiness?
             Who’s responsible for children’s happiness?
             What this book is about
             What kids need to manage their feelings
             How do you handle kid’s feelings?
    
2. What do do when your child is upset
             Levels of support
             Younger and unskilled children
    
3. What kids need to know about feelings
             How to identify feelings
             The nature of feelings
             How to cope with feelings
             How can you teach these concepts?
             Blocking children’s emotional development
             Questions & answers
    
4. Self-calming tools
             Six groups of self-calming tools
             How to teach self-calming tools
             Four levels of support for kids’ feelings
    
5. Problem-solving tools
             How to solve a problem
             Introduce the problem-solving process
             Strategies to deal with things
             Strategies to deal with people
             Help children negotiate
             Supporting kids’ problem-solving
    
6. Teaching both feelings and problem-solving
             Four ways to respond
             A challenge — “You’re not my best friend”
             Is teaching skills worth the effort?
             Where should I start?
             When should I start?
    
7. Making changes
             Introducing general skills
             Working with challenging problems
             Another challenging situation
    
8. Staying calm when kids are upset
             Identify your emotional triggers
             Remain emotionally separate
             Remain in charge of your feelings
             Maintain your self-esteem
             Take care of yourself
             Use calming techniques yourself
             Reduce clutter
             Develop and action plan
    
9. Questions and answers
             How long does it take?
             Questions and answers
             How do I know if my child needs help?
             Closing

Appendices

1. The cost of emotional illiteracy
2. Activities for understanding feelings
3. Tools for coping with feelings
4. Songs and Stories
5. Resources

Index