Especially in Crises, We Have
Legitimate Cause for Anger
Your kids are angry? You parents are out of sync? You may be perfectly normal, say the authors of two Parenting Press books.
In What Angry Kids Need, therapists Jennifer Anne Brown and Pam Provonsha Hopkins point out that children often have legitimate reasons for being angry, especially in situations in which they have no control, whether simple (hunger or weariness) or complex (a family financial crisis, move, divorce or death).
In Why Don't You Understand? parent educator and personal coach Susie Leonard Weller outlines the different ways people respond to stress depending on the way their brains work, and how crises can make understanding each other so difficult.
Brown, a Bellingham WA mother of two small children, and Hopkins, a Snohomish WA parent with grown children, have both worked with extremely angry children; they point out that a child’s behavior can stem from such basic issues as hunger, health problems like hyperglycemia, temperament, early life problems like trauma, and attachment, whether a child feels secure with parents and caregivers early in life. These issues do not justify bad behavior, but they can explain it, especially when children start to act out during a period of family crisis. Their book provides techniques parents can use to help kids cope with strong emotions, and with tools parents can use to handle their own emotions, and their interactions with children.
Weller, who lives in Liberty Lake WA and works for the Community Colleges of Spokane, uses Why Don't You Understand? to demystify recent research that shows the four primary patterns in which people think: logical, creative, practical and relational. She describes how the opposite thinking styles can make for good—or conflicting—relationships. She also explains how crisis can exaggerate each style, turning a complementary relationship into chaos. Her book offers examples and exercises that demonstrate appropriate and inappropriate responses, and help us practice better communication skills and respect for others’ thinking styles.
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