What the Media Say about The Biting Solution:
- Earnestly recommended. . .Biting is perhaps the single worst atrocity of toddlerhood. It brings out primal defense mechanisms in the parents of the victim and horrific shame and sadness in the perp's family. However, it is a relatively common occurrence that receives little more than a nod in most parenting books.
Poelle has a wealth of professional early childhood education experience that she brings to this topic, and here she gives parents and educators a step-by-step look at the biting tendency: what is normal child development, why some children bite, case studies of biters, and forms and worksheets for progressing through the problem. From identifying triggers to recognizing the impact of delayed language skills to working with both sets of parents, Poelle provides a wealth of practical, informative advice covering everything from developing empathy to soothing a hurt and frustrated child.
VERDICT Child-care workers, parents, and colleges and universities with early childhood development programs will all benefit from this text. A timely and underrepresented contribution to the literature. Poelle should be commended for providing solid solutions to what feels like the "crime of the century" in parenting.
- —Library Journal
- By talking about the extinction of a behavior (the reduction in its frequency when it is not reinforced), [Lisa Poelle] positions problem biting as a learned behavior. . ..Poelle discusses many factors that influence the performance of a learned behavior. . .Her book provided an action plan worksheet that guides caregivers to observe multiple factors. . ..factors that may not be easily observed by busy adults who are responsible for a number of children.
- —ChildMyths, childmyths.blogspot.com
- A realistic and comprehensive approach to help stop biting. For parents who are looking for a quick fix, [Poelle] certainly does a good job of explaining there isn't one single solution to solve the problem. Instead, readers are given many different techniques and interventions to try.
What Webinar and Seminar Participants Say:
A six-hour January 2016 workshop for 40 New York City child care center teachers yielded praise for author Lisa Poelle:
- The script for intervening will help our team be more consistent.
- Particularly liked the book's "Instructive Intervention Pocket Guide."
- So many good and practical ideas for preventing biting and other hurtful behaviors.
A July 2014 conference session, "Chronic Biting Problems: Caused and Solved by Adults," resulted in these comments from early childhood professionals about speaker Lisa Poelle:
- Poelle gives me the tools to deal with difficult behaviors.
- She is great at explaining objectives: a very interesting presenter!
- Now I know that biting is just "the tip of the iceberg."
- As a teacher-trainer, I can use this information for all types of challenging behavior.
- Now I am better able to explain to classroom teachers what needs to be addressed with biters.
Earlier this year, 2,600 early education professionals registered for a webinar with Poelle. Here's a sampling of the comments from participants in "Take the Sting out of Biting- The Administrator's Role in Stopping Biting Before it Starts."
- Absolutely loved the webinar! I've been in the field for over twenty years and I learned SO MUCH. I only wish all of my toddler teachers were with me participating!
- —New Jersey child care center director
- Lots of great ideas to implement.
- —Nova Scotia community college coordinator
- —Massachusetts instructor of Head Start providers, whose students attended the webinar
Caregivers and preschool teachers attending a November 2015 YMCA workshop said:
- Presenter is absolutely wonderful and extremely knowledgeable
- Highly informative — you are awesome!
- Useful information to apply in classrooms every day
- Excellent training. I learned a lot from it!
What Professionals Say about The Biting Solution:
- Your suggestions have helped with the student most prone to biting and the others as well. Their favorite word is 'mine' and each of them know how to use it correctly. This eliminates many of the situations that used to cause a student to bite. We cannot thank you enough for your help.
- —Toddler teacher, child care center
- A valuable presentation for anyone who needs to work with—or help others who work with—toddlers. . .Systematically [takes you] through a complex list of causal factors and actions that can help solve the biting problem.
- —World Association for Infant Mental Health, Delaware Valley Group, writing in PhillyBabies
- A treasure of positive solutions to a vexing problem. Poelle describes the importance of understanding the reasons for children biting, and the necessity of responding to the biting firmly and kindly. . ..The message is clear: parents and teachers must change their behavior before children change theirs. Instructions on how to handle biting are clear and well laid out. . ..This book should be in the hands of every parent, and on the bookshelf as a resource for every preschool.
- —Lesley Iwinski, MD
Growing Peaceful Families
- Great book! Parents and teachers get a better understanding of why young children resort to hurting each other, plus effective, concrete ideas to prevent and respond to these problem behaviors.
- —Lauren Kuehn
Director, Green Hills Pre-school, Los Gatos, CA
- Lisa Poelle's firm, warm writing style calms and empowers. . . . A worthwhile read for parents and educational professionals.
- —Jennifer Butch
early childhood educator, New York City Early Childhood Professional Development
- A must-have book for parents and teachers of young children. . . . The examples of actual situations and customized solutions clearly illustrate how to use this method with children of different ages.
- —Stephanie Dockweiler, M.A.
President, QS2 Training and Consulting
- Very effective and wise solutions that work.
- —Ellen Galinsky
President, Families and Work Institute; author (most recently), Mind in the Making: The Seven Essential Skills Every Child Needs
- As the child care center director of numerous programs, I have consistently used Lisa Poelle's advice in tackling myriad challenges. I highly recommend her book to both early childhood educators and parents.
- —Joan Campanella-Shutt
- The Biting Solution offers sound advice about how to eliminate hurtful behavior . . . which is often misunderstood and not always respectfully extinguished. . . . A must-read for childcare providers, parents of young children, and parents of twins.
- —Dianne Thomas
licensed marriage and family therapist, twins specialist, and parent educator
- I have never seen such an effective tool for dealing with socially unacceptable behaviors as in The Biting Solution. I have personally witnessed complete behavioral transformations in students who were once deemed problematic. This book is an invaluable resource for all parents and teachers.
- —Jill Howard
Executive Director, Preschool of America
- It was quite interesting to learn about what different factors contribute to certain behaviors such as biting.
- —Workshop participant
- I learned. . .what to use in certain situations to solve all kinds of classroom problems. Everything was helpful for me.
- —Workshop participant
- I learned so much on finding solutions. Lisa knows her stuff.
- —Workshop participant
- Easy to understand how to implement new strategies in the child's behavior. How to search for what really is happening in a child's life.
- —Workshop participant
- A great instructor, very well informed about the topic.
- —Workshop participant
What Readers Say about The Biting Solution:
- I bought this after my 11-month-old had a few biting incidents at daycare. I was distraught, unsure how to help him learn not to do this. The Biting Solution gave me a clear plan of action. It explains how to correct a pre-verbal child in a way that he will understand, and that actually works — within two weeks or so of being corrected, my son stopped biting. The book is also really helpful in that it explains the child's point of view at various stages of development. Having a sense of what my son was thinking when he bites was incredibly helpful so that I could anticipate when it might happen and avoid putting him in that situation. I highly recommend this to anyone who needs a help dealing with this challenging phase.
- Lisa has touched on a subject that is a big problem for lots of people. . .a must-read for all parents, caregivers and teachers. . . Thank you, Lisa, for making being a twin mom just a touch easier!
- Very practical strategies that helps with one of the most challenging situations a parent or caregiver will encounter. . . Should be available in every preschool.
- I really like the way this book is formatted; it's very user-friendly and a quick read. In each chapter, the author describes the types of problems experienced by a child who bites, and matches them to specific, clear solutions.
- Poelle gets to the root of the issue so that adults can understand the child's underlying reasons for biting and how to minimize occurrences!. . .Great tool for teachers and parents!
- Nothing was working. . . .I had sought help from the pediatrician, dentist and the day care, [which] wanted to refer my son for Early Childhood Intervention. It is the most horrible feeling to know that your child is hurting other kids . . . When I read a case study of Lisa Poelle's, I knew this was different. She does not offer one simple solution for biting. . . . This book gave me new insight into why my son had a biting problem . . . Biting incidents have dramatically decreased and I feel we will be through this stage of life very quickly.