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She’s old enough to remember the Great Depression and the Nazis taking over Germany, but
there’s nothing to indicate that Harriet Heath is ready to retire. In fact, when you hear the intensity in this
psychologist’s voice, you’re convinced she’s just gotten her second wind.
A Methodist minister’s daughter who began her career as a school teacher, Dr. Heath has spent years as a
counselor and parent educator. Today her commitment is to values: to helping parents identify their values and teach those
values to their kids. The author of Using Your Values to Raise Your Child to Be an Adult You Admire, Dr. Heath is impatient with
those who try to dictate what others’ values should be. She’s almost as frustrated with those
who don’t give you the skills you need to implement your values. Wanting to do something is not good
enough, Dr. Heath insists; you have to know how to do it as well.
When you listen to Harriet Heath’s life story, you understand her “can-do”
mindset. Her parents lived their values and dreams, exuding confidence despite a modest minister’s salary and
the privations of the 1930s.
That faith extended far past providing the basics of food and shelter. In the middle of the Depression, when many
Europeans were espousing socialism and the Nazis were taking over Germany, Dr. Heath’s adventurous parents emptied their
savings account, borrowed against their life insurance, drove from the Midwest to the East Coast and loaded their car and two
young children on a ship for a five-month visit to Europe. This was more a study tour than a vacation. Dr.
Heath’s father took every opportunity to research the cooperative movement that was popular in Scandinavia,
questioning whether that was a possible solution to the U.S.’s social problems. The
psychologist’s parents also asked the people they met about the hints of war and oppression. Decades later,
Dr. Heath still remembers the tension when her parents met with Quakers in Berlin, who were fearful of providing more than
cryptic responses to questions about Jewish refugee projects.
When you hear Dr. Heath’s stories about her early career and marriage, you’ll also understand why she’s impatient with our
society’s focus on short-term gratification. Charmed with the Maine coast during their honeymoon, Heath and her husband
were determined to build a summer retreat there for their future family. While still newlyweds, they bought a rocky waterfront
lot. By the time Dr. Heath was pregnant with their first child, she and her college professor husband were breaking ground for
a cabin—living in a tent-trailer in weather so foul the trailer’s tires had rotted by summer’s end. But the
commitment and vision paid off: today the cottage is a favorite gathering spot for three generations of Heaths.
Like her parents, Dr. Heath and her husband weren’t afraid to venture abroad with young children. In fact,
when Douglas Heath won a Fulbright grant, the Heaths relocated for 15 months with three children, one of them just a
preschooler. They traveled as far north as Bergen, Norway, and as far south as Morocco, camping for months at a time. A
decade later, the Heaths returned to Europe for six months; while her husband wrote, Dr. Heath interrupted her own work to
help her daughters pursue their passions. The eighth-grader immersed herself in French, and the 18-year-old spent months
(and 6,000 miles) retracing the paths of the Plantagenet kings of 12th and 13th century England.
For Harriet Heath, the adventure continues. She teaches parenting programs close to home—and far afield:
she’s carried curricula west to Eskimo villages and east to Moscow and lectured in New Delhi, Tel Aviv,
Rome, Lima and Caracas. She’s even shepherded nursing mothers and pregnant women into a
bar’s back room when no other classroom space was available.
“I’m flexible, just like other parent educators,” Dr. Heath chuckles about the
unusual work settings. “Sometimes we’re on a stage with a mike, sometimes
we’re working over noise—but usually, it’s the noise from babies and
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