Dealing with Disappointment
- Who’s responsible for happiness?
Who’s responsible for children’s happiness?
What this book is about
What kids need to manage their feelings
How do you handle kid’s feelings?
- What do do when your child is upset
Levels of support
Younger and unskilled children
- What kids need to know about feelings
How to identify feelings
The nature of feelings
How to cope with feelings
How can you teach these concepts?
Blocking children’s emotional development
Questions & answers
- Self-calming tools
Six groups of self-calming tools
How to teach self-calming tools
Four levels of support for kids’ feelings
- Problem-solving tools
How to solve a problem
Introduce the problem-solving process
Strategies to deal with things
Strategies to deal with people
Help children negotiate
Supporting kids’ problem-solving
- Teaching both feelings and problem-solving
Four ways to respond
A challenge — “You’re not my best friend”
Is teaching skills worth the effort?
Where should I start?
When should I start?
- Making changes
Introducing general skills
Working with challenging problems
Another challenging situation
- Staying calm when kids are upset
Identify your emotional triggers
Remain emotionally separate
Remain in charge of your feelings
Maintain your self-esteem
Take care of yourself
Use calming techniques yourself
Develop and action plan
- Questions and answers
How long does it take?
Questions and answers
How do I know if my child needs help?
- The cost of emotional illiteracy
- Activities for understanding feelings
- Tools for coping with feelings
- Songs and Stories
Useful for 2–12 years
About the Author:
Elizabeth Crary, M.S.
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